“Dear Prudence National Zero, My partner and I are anticipating an issue we don’t know how to deal with. We have a nephew ‘Don’ (who is around 27), who attended the Jan. 6 rally last year. I don’t know whether he went inside the capitol building or not, but he did make ominous statements on a video call the day before, about having important work to do on Jan. 6. The issue is how to handle future family get-togethers, particularly around Christmas. I no longer feel comfortable being near Don, and while I don’t want to pressure my partner, I also worry for her safety if she attends these events without me (with Don present). We touched on this issue with my in-laws (partner’s parents) on Christmas, and they just glossed over it as Don being misled by another family member. We don’t know what to do, please advise. We can’t hide behind COVID forever” writes “Undecided in the U.S.” to Slate.com’s popular “Dear Prudence” column.

Dear Undecided, Yeah we’re just going to go ahead and take this over because Prudence (who’s actual name isn’t Prudence, it’s Jenée and she isn’t even the first Prudence) was too diplomatic and passive. It’s not enough to simply cut ‘Don’ out of your lives – you need to make him want to cut you out of his life. You should absolutely have invited him over for Christmas, and made sure the ornaments were little Mike Pences with nooses hanging from the tree. Baked little cookies that look like the QAnon Shaman. Put footage of the riot on loop on the TV on mute while you play Nat King Cole… without saying a word about it. Make it uncomfortable for him – and Granny, Grampy and everyone else into all this MAGA bullshit. Stop being so undecided, bro… or sis if you’re a woman.